Don't date broke women’ – Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

Kingsley Okonkwo advises men not to marry broke women, urging men to seek partners who can contribute meaningfully to their future rather than becoming financial burdens in relationships.

Popular relationship coach and senior pastor of David’s Christian Center, Kingsley Okonkwo, has sparked conversations online after advising men to reconsider the type of partners they choose for marriage.

In a series of posts shared on social media, the cleric argued that many men now see marriage as a heavy financial obligation rather than a balanced partnership.

According to him, the situation is partly responsible for why fewer men are eager to get married.

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“Men, it’s high time we start having standards as well. You guys are too used to women who are liabilities; that’s why less and less men desire marriage. They see it as a burden,” he wrote.

During the discussion, Kingsley Okonkwo advises men not to marry financially dependent women but instead seek partners who can actively contribute to their shared goals and future.

He encouraged men to prioritise financially responsible women who are willing to work and build alongside their partners.

“Men set standards like you won’t marry broke women too, that you want a partner and not a dependent,” he stated.

The pastor added that such expectations might motivate more women to focus on building their careers rather than seeing marriage as a financial escape route.

Okonkwo also criticised what he described as societal expectations that place the entire financial responsibility of relationships on men.

According to him, the mindset contradicts biblical principles and creates unhealthy dynamics within marriages.

He stressed that relationships should involve cooperation and shared responsibility between partners.

The pastor further warned men against intentionally choosing financially vulnerable women simply to maintain control in relationships.

He argued that such behaviour ultimately harms both individuals and society.

“Some men like needy and dependent women because it boosts their ego and helps them control women, but it’s doing more harm than good,” he said.

Okonkwo emphasised that every individual has unique abilities and should be encouraged to develop their potential rather than remain dependent on others.