The First Date Magic For Ladies - Part 4 'Seldom Sleep With Him'

The truth is, when emotions arises in a relationship, sex becomes inevitable, at least very difficult to resist.



I've seen a couple of posts and articles warning against premarital sex as it leads to failure in relationship, Hell No, those are what I call hypocritical articles.



As much as I don't judge women for their love for money and material things, I don't judge men for their strong sexual desires, and the same way you might fail in weighing a good woman with her love for money and material things, that's the same way you might fail in weighing a good man with his sexual desires and drives, these things does not ascertain a person's moral orientation in a relationship.







A good woman can be very financially demanding, and a good man can be very sexually demanding, if you teach people to flee from sexually demanding men and financially demanding women, then you're preparing them to marry illusions as spouse.



I'm not exaggerating, sex is liable to happen in a relationship, I'm not the kind of writer that would write against the whole English Lexicon just because a single alphabet is broken.




A relationship does not become evil or immoral or heading for failure just because y'all obeyed the inevitable sexual drive that errupts, Hell No, he can still be God's ideal man for you after you have sexed his senses off.







People would usually ask me, does it make it Gods standards? Well, if God was supposed to abide strictly by his standards we all would have been dead and gone.



We are still here jumping up and down to defend God's standards because God has replaced the same standard you're defending with Grace.



Now before you get carried away, I'm not giving you license to become a pervert, Hell No, if you can have a stunning relationship void of sex




I encourage you to maintain it, but if you can't, perhaps you have had sex with him, or you intend to or you know it would happen eventually.









I need you to know that it is totally cool, its great, it doesn't make two of you first two people in the list of sinners, but then comes my message.



Seldom Sleep With Him, Don't literally become his slut, men are very psycholigical, if there's no single bariar between him and your nakedness, he has his way anytime he wants, he would start taking you less serious.




Make him realize your body is very precious, even if you also want it all the time, pretend sometimes, forbid him most of the times, resist him, torture him to love you beyond what's behind your cloths.







Let him create value in you even in the absence of sex, some of you ladies has nothing else to offer apart from sex, and that is why whenever you're in your flow, he doesn't call, he doesn't want to see you, he avoids you and everything, but as soon as you're free again, voom, he floads your wall with messages and your log with calls, because he knows you aren't worth higher than sex.




It isn't his settings that was the way you presented yourself, Seldome sleep with him, if you want a man to take you very serious, don't become too loose for him.




Even if you're loose, tighten up a little, don't go to house to spend the night and have him spend the night on you, learn to spend quality time with him without ever letting him see your thighs, make him develop interest in other aspects of you.







Some of you as soon as you tell your man you're coming over, he orders for viagra and condoms, Hell No, it shouldn't be so, he should be generally excited that you're coming, not just sexual excitements.




Sex should be the last thing in his program whenever you're coming over, there should be more quality things to do together, y'all can see movies, or read books together, or play, or pray, or plan, or discuss imensly on serious issues without anyone feeling horny all through.




It doesn't always have to be sex, some of you as soon as you enter and drop your purse, pants has shifted even with all your cloths fully on, Hell No, how would you want him to regard you?




As a wife? No man will, if you let a man, he would put his whole hand in your vagina, that's how crazy they are, it doesn't ascertain who's a good man, but if you curtail him, he would develop respect and fear for even your lips, that's also how psychologycal they're, it all depends on you.




When a man finally shows 70% interest in you without sex in the picture, he has found something rare, and would do anything to keep you.




Ask Jakes any question, drop your questions in the comment section.






Read Part Three Here

By Emmanuel Vidon Jakes